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2:6 Writing in Cafes with Boys


Do you all remember that terrible movie with my girl Drew and the late, great Brittany Murphy? No matter. Exhibiting some of my best bundling, I braved the elements to walk 30 feet to my nearest coffee shop. Fortunately, I look my Logan Squarest in lots of disparate layers and my blue boy’s beanie. #hipstersicles.


Someone put a parka on this chick.

So here I sit.

In The True Secret of Writing, Natalie Goldberg talks about a “third thing”. Most people are deeply conflicted by something. Maybe your morals are incredibly important to you, but your oppressed rebel within always wants to stir up trouble. Maybe you call yourself “easygoing”, but you constantly struggle with feeling lost; out of control. In that field between unmitigated opposites, proton and electron, incongruous magnetic poles; lives your third thing. Your third thing, Friend, is the peace between.

My third thing is the peace between introvert and extrovert. Most people know which camp they belong to: I vote Independent. All I know is, when I’m quietly alone in a public place; writing in a coffee shop, all of me is satisfied. I’m never more at peace than when I’m participating and spectating, seemingly reticent — thoughts ringing loud straight through to my finger tips. It’s the sort of peace worth seeking out when the wind blows 43 ° below. In the world and apart from it: it’s perfect.

As an aside, one of my main goals in life is to be an infamous neighborhood coffee shop oddball, like the bearded man who made intricate wood block carvings at Unicorn, or the boy with the ponytail who was always “reading” Kafka/giving me the eye at Intelligentsia. Recently, I received an okcupid message (because I am a masochist) that read: “God almighty. Are you the girl with the TV Land messenger bag?”


Stay warm, U.S. readers! And find your peace, everyone.




Author: twitchysister

Hey you! is largely devoted to musings on what balance means to an urbane, artsy-fartsy twenty-something. It’s tough out here for us post-grad women: if you’re not homeless, you’re doing something right. But do you, too, worry that you spend too much time furrowing your brows over your future when you should be unwrapping and relishing your present? Do you, like me, sometimes feel like everyone expects you to be the type of person who spends the majority of her entry-level “arts” paycheck on fifteen dollar old-timey cocktails, four a.m. cab rides home and everything sequined on the Urban Outfitters sale rack when, perhaps, you are really the type of person who would rather drink cucumber mint kale juice while wearing yoga pants and Googling reiki techniques? Is it possible that such a person is one and the same, and she is fabulous in her own, very confused right? Sister girl, I hear you. I know you. I accept you. I also know in my happy gut, full heart and coffee-addled brain that you and I are gorgeous glow worms, just as we are! We are sparkle ponies of light and love and we are still in the process of teasing out our true, authentic selves with all of this… living. So if you don’t have it figured out, if you acknowledge that you never will and that is tremendously exciting, if you want to connect with other smart chicks and tap into that charming inner-self of yours, then come back real soon, ya hear? We’re family now!

7 thoughts on “2:6 Writing in Cafes with Boys

  1. No, but really, I promise I left you a long comment on the previous post. I even quoted you. What I want to know is? Do I need to read this book? Lemme know, girl. Thank goodness for hipster beanies to keep us warm and to wrap up breakable christmas presents in my suitcase for travel.


  2. Pingback: 2:7 And They Will Know Us by the Trail of Bread | Rosie Glow Wellness

  3. OMG you basically were miss-connectioned via OKCupid. So many layers of Internet dating.


  4. YOU DID IT AGAIN! Get out of my head girl ;) (especially this: “All I know is, when I’m quietly alone in a public place; writing in a coffee shop, all of me is satisfied.” YES!) XO

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